Marriage Counseling

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Hello! Everyone wants to live this life, but it seems many don’t know how to have a happy marriage. What’s missing? And where does God fit in the picture? Did He have anything to do with the institution of marriage and, if so, did He give us any instructions? Well, marriage is like a freeway and divorce is an off-ramp. As long as you insist on getting off the freeway, you never complete the course God has set before you. People get divorced for one reason and one reason only: One or both of them get selfish. People won’t say they got selfish – hence they’ll say, “Oh, we were too young” or “We rushed into it,’” but its all nonsense. They’re getting divorced for one reason, and that is because of being selfish.

Nevertheless, it takes courage to really love without expecting anything in return. There is deep meaning in those yearnings if we take time to really listen to them, and not just rush to cover them up, numb ourselves out, or avoid the hard work and feelings. There is no rushing personal growth in marriage counseling. Time tempers the pain, but sometimes how awful that sounds when you are just coming to grip with the news that you’re beloved is no longer yours to love. It really hurts, but love just is and you cannot will it away or toward you. It meanders on its own accord and takes it sweet time, or rushes in with heady abandon despite your best intentions and self-protection. Sometimes no matter how much it hurts to love, there is no letting go of those feelings, because there is nothing to let go of and at least nothing tangible. Now, if you have asked yourself the question “how do I save my marriage from divorce” you have come to the right place. You need to have the best marriage counselor at your fingertips, if your marriage is struggling, unhappy, or on the verge of divorce. You need to know what factors could be working against your marriage right now, even if you see nothing wrong. Many people believe that their marriage is working fine until their spouse gives them the wake-up call. Have a nice day.